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From birth we’re taught that we’re owed a beautiful girl. We all think of ourselves as the hero of our own story, and we all (whether we admit it or not) think we’re heroes for just getting through our day.
So it’s very frustrating, and I mean frustrating to the point of violence, when we don’t get what we’re owed. A contract has been broken. These women, by exercising their own choices, are denying it to us. It’s why every Nice Guy is shocked to find that buying gifts for a girl and doing her favors won’t win him sex. It’s why we go to “slut” and “whore” as our default insults — we’re not mad that women enjoy sex. We’re mad that women are distributing to other people the sex that they owed us.
Yes, the women in these stories are being portrayed as wonderful and beautiful and perfect. But remember, there are two ways to dehumanize someone: by dismissing them, and by idolizing them.
David Wong, 5 Ways Modern Men Are Trained to Hate Women (via chirart)
That last line is right on the money.
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(Source: cracked.com)
Young Peter Salter wrote a very good piece about social anxiety and panic attacks. The best part, however, is the thread that follows. Loads of advice, links, encouragement, and readers sharing their experiences. Go read it. (via guardiancomment)
It’s irksome to me though that EVEN though anxiety is explained well and from a personal perspective in the article, there have to be a few people in the comments who are like “But is this a disease? Don’t lots of people commonly get nervous before big social events?” I take it they’ve never experience a panic attack then or they wouldn’t be wondering if it’s ‘really that bad’. Jitters is to social anxiety as is one bee to a hive of wasps. Social anxiety disorder/general anxiety disorder can put you in the hospital. Me? I get related tachycardia and I had to endure some testing.
It really is from a lack of awareness though. People just don’t understand because of the stigma around discussing it, as the article points out. I do feel like it’s my job sometimes to explain, but on the other hand it’s tiresome to be forthcoming and still have people fail to grasp what you’re telling them. I wish I could just capslock at everyone YOU DON’T EVEN KNOW. It does get better with time though. I mean once you’re open about your anxiety and people have had time to process, they can be incredibly supportive.
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