Laura. 21. Somewhere in Canada.
Mallory Ortberg of Gawker, critiquing CNN’s disgusting response to the Stuebenville rape trial verdicts.
Her commentary is spot on.
(via cognitivedissonance)
[Some Indian and “Western” commentators] have reduced India’s rape crisis to a cultural problem. Men, we are told – specifically, Indian men – are culturally lacking and barbaric. They have no concept of women’s rights or equality. They are born and bred to sexually assault and degrade women. This is a familiar phenomenon, and an outgrowth of colonialism. When horrible crimes happen, specifically to women, we reduce the culture, in this case, of about 1 billion people, to a gang-bang-enabling society of rapists. And of course, by blaming Indian culture specifically, Western sexism is brushed under the table. We arrive at Gayatri Spivak’s formula explaining the colonial exploitation of anti-woman violence in colonized societies: “white men saving brown women from brown men”.
The process of reducing brown men to savages has been all too familiar in recent years. We have seen Egyptian men reduced to “animals” and “beasts” by the New York Post because a mob high on a combination of stupidity and jubilation about Mubarak’s downfall brutally assaulted white reporter Lara Logan. We have seen a number of “native informants,” from Mona Eltahawaly to Hirsi Ali, tell us that Arab and Muslim men “hate” women. In typical colonial fashion, gender dynamics, including real crimes and acts of brutality, are reduced to “cultural” problems in which we can reduce entire societies to large gang-bang parties predicated on savage men who simply prey on women.
Amith Gupta - Orientalist Feminism Rears its Head in India via Jadaliyya (via mehreenkasana)
This is some fucking bullshit, though. Remember that poor 11-year-old girl who was gang-raped in Texas a couple years back? Here’s an article that sums up all the lovely victim blaming she was subjected to. Rape happens every day in Western countries, too, and the U.S. is certainly no exception. Where is our outrage when that happens? Where are our protests?
(via dingoatemybabycrazy)
If we’ve learned anything from the Tosh incident it’s that nope, women can’t react proactively when threatened with offensive speech because if we do, the guy with the mic can wish gang rape on us and be cheered on by the internet at large while doing it.
If anyone has ever wondered why someone hasn’t spoken up when offended in the moment, this is why.
You wonder why rape survivors don’t come forward? Maybe one of the big reasons is that we’re constantly bombarded with institutional & cultural messages about how little what we have to say about what happened to us matters (but people making jokes about and otherwise profiting off of our trauma while simultaneously belittling it get national media platforms).
TW: rape. rape jokes, rape culture
This is something that happened to a friend of mine in her own words.
“So, on Friday night my friend and I were at her house and wanted to get out and do something for the evening. We brainstormed ideas and she brought up the idea of seeing a show at the Laugh Factory. I’d never been, I thought it sounded fun, so we went. We saw that Dane Cook, along some other names we didn’t recognize we’re playing, and while we both agree that Cook’s style is not really our taste we were opened-minded about what the others had to offer. And we figured even good ol’ Dane can be funny sometimes, even if it’s not really our thing. Anyhoo, his act was actually fine, but then when his was done, some other guy I didn’t recognize took the stage. Of course, I would find out later this was Daniel Tosh, but at the time I thought he was just some yahoo who somehow got a gig going on after Cook. I honestly thought he was an amateur because he didn’t seem that comfortable on stage and seemed to have a really awkward presence.
So Tosh then starts making some very generalizing, declarative statements about rape jokes always being funny, how can a rape joke not be funny, rape is hilarious, etc. I don’t know why he was so repetitive about it but I felt provoked because I, for one, DON’T find them funny and never have. So I didnt appreciate Daniel Tosh (or anyone!) telling me I should find them funny. So I yelled out, “Actually, rape jokes are never funny!”
I did it because, even though being “disruptive” is against my nature, I felt that sitting there and saying nothing, or leaving quietly, would have been against my values as a person and as a woman. I don’t sit there while someone tells me how I should feel about something as profound and damaging as rape.After I called out to him, Tosh paused for a moment. Then, he says, “Wouldn’t it be funny if that girl got raped by like, 5 guys right now? Like right now? What if a bunch of guys just raped her…” and I, completely stunned and finding it hard to process what was happening but knowing i needed to get out of there, immediately nudged my friend, who was also completely stunned, and we high-tailed it out of there. It was humiliating, of course, especially as the audience guffawed in response to Tosh, their eyes following us as we made our way out of there. I didn’t hear the rest of what he said about me.
Now in the lobby, I spoke with the girl at the will-call desk, and demanded to see the manager. The manager on duty quickly came out to speak with me, and she was profusely apologetic, and seemed genuinely sorry about what had happened, but of course we received no refund for our tickets, but instead a comped pair of tickets, although she admitted she understood if we never wanted to come back. I can imagine the Laugh Factory doesn’t really have a policy in place for what happens when a woman has to leave in a hurry because the person onstage is hurling violent words about sexual violence at her. Although maybe I’m not the first girl to have that happen to her.I should probably add that having to basically flee while Tosh was enthusing about how hilarious it would be if I was gang-raped in that small, claustrophic room was pretty viscerally terrifying and threatening all the same, even if the actual scenario was unlikely to take place. The suggestion of it is violent enough and was meant to put me in my place.”
Please reblog and spread the word.
A little reminder for those of you who think it’s okay to gif rape scenes from tv shows/movies:
IT’S NOT.
The bigger question, in the case of Tomb Raider, is why the game’s designers decided to make Lara Croft so vulnerable. In a recent interview with Kotaku, executive producer Ron Rosenberg said players want to protect Lara, and that the new game would break her down, put her through awful experiences, and make the players “root for her in a way that you might not root for a male character”.
His statements take some unpacking, and for fans of the Tomb Raider series they’re not encouraging. As a player, I don’t remember having many problems projecting myself as Lara – and I don’t particularly want an avatar in a game that needs protecting. Players aren’t expected to want to protect Nathan Drake in Uncharted, or John Marsden in Red Dead Redemption, or Max Payne – so why Lara? Rosenberg seems to suggest it’s because she’s female – and it’s hard to see that as anything other than a sexist approach, an assumption that men can’t lose themselves in stories with female protagonists and/or that female gamers simply don’t exist.
